We Ask Why Life Is So Hard, Life Answers It’s The Way To Engrave Valuable Lessons In Our Minds

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"E eu tenho vontade de segurar seu rosto e ordenar que você seja esperto e jamais me perca e seja..."

“E eu tenho vontade de segurar seu rosto e ordenar que você seja esperto e jamais me perca e seja feliz. E que entenda que temos tudo o que duas pessoas precisam para ser feliz: A gente dá muitas risadas juntos. A gente admira o outro desde o dedinho do pé até onde cada um chegou sozinho. A gente acha que o mundo está maluco e sonha com a praia do Espelho e com os sonos jamais despertados antes do meio-dia. A gente tem certeza que nenhum perfume do mundo é melhor que a nuca um do outro no final do dia. A gente se reconheceu de longa data quando se viu pela primeira vez na vida.”

- Tati Bernardi. 

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"É apenas mais uma pessoa que entrou na sua vida para tumultuar, dessas que não te levam a sério e..."

“É apenas mais uma pessoa que entrou na sua vida para tumultuar, dessas que não te levam a sério e não querem nada com nada. É só outro alguém por quem você se encantou e que não veio com a miníma intenção de ficar. Mas quer saber? No fim, chega a ser engraçado. Porque pessoas como essa você já encontrou várias. E superou todas.”

- Pedro Pinheiro.

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"— Não faça isso. — O quê? — Sorrir como se eu fosse a sua pessoa preferida no mundo."

“— Não faça isso.
— O quê?
— Sorrir como se eu fosse a sua pessoa preferida no mundo.”

- Amanhecer

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"Era engraçado porque, toda vez que ela me fazia sorrir ou rir, eu sentia uma vontade incontrolável..."

“Era engraçado porque, toda vez que ela me fazia sorrir ou rir, eu sentia uma vontade incontrolável de explicar pra ela o quanto eu a amava.”

- Caio Fernando Abreu.

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"Ele escolheu você, escolheu seu sorriso, e seu jeito. Mesmo que ele sempre diga que sou a pessoa..."

“Ele escolheu você, escolheu seu sorriso, e seu jeito. Mesmo que ele sempre diga que sou a pessoa mais incrível que ele conheceu até hoje, ele quis você. E eu? Eu quero que você seja dele, porque ele é seu. Mesmo que isso doa muito, eu quero ver ele sorri, porque ele ama aquele sorriso, eu tenho que concordar, aqueles dentes são perfeitamente mal colocados naquela boca. Eu quero que você cuide dele, é pedir muito? Ele vai cuidar de você, e ele também vai te amar muito todos os dias, ele vai deixar o mundo de lado quando o assunto for você. Mas ele também vai pisar na bola, falar bobagem e até brigar, ele poderia ser perfeito, não é? Mas eu acho ele perfeito, assim como ele é, cheio de defeitos. Os defeitos são os que nos fazem únicos, sabia? Outra coisa que precisa saber, ele gosta de cantar, ele vai cantar pra você, peça pra ele cantar pra você quando você estiver com medo, aquela voz vai acalmar seu peito. Escute as músicas favoritas dele, ele vai adorar e você também, elas são lindas. Deixe que ele seja ele, porque ele quer mostrar a você todo lado bom, mas também quer que você esteja lá quando o lado ruim aparecer. Ele vai ter uma música de vocês dois e ela nunca sairá da cabeça dele e nem da playlist, deixa na sua também. Ele vai escrever textos em qualquer lugar, porque ele é muito bom nisso e você será a fonte da inspiração. Não vou dizer pra ser boa o suficiente porque eu sei que é, ao menos espero que seja. Só quero pedir mais uma coisa, não machuque ele, porque ele não quer e talvez nunca vá te machucar.”

- Cuida dele, Bianca Autran. (via temporio)

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"Eu deveria ser mais corajoso. Saber a hora de dizer não, e principalmente de botar um ponto final,..."

“Eu deveria ser mais corajoso. Saber a hora de dizer não, e principalmente de botar um ponto final, quando no fundo sei que continuar pondo vírgulas anda sendo loucura.”

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"Quando dizemos coisas como “pessoas não mudam”, bem… Isso leva os cientistas à loucura… Porque..."

“Quando dizemos coisas como “pessoas não mudam”, bem… Isso leva os cientistas à loucura… Porque mudança é literalmente a única constante em toda a ciência… Energia, matéria, está sempre mudando, fundindo-se, crescendo, morrendo… É a forma que as pessoas tentam não mudar que não é natural, a forma que nos prendemos ao jeito que as coisas eram ao invés de deixá-las serem o que são. A forma que nos apegamos a velhas memórias ao invés de formar novas, a forma que insistimos em acreditar, apesar de toda a indicação científica que nada nessa vida é permanente, mudança é constante. Como sentimos a mudança, isso depende de nós… Pode ser como a morte, ou pode ser como uma segunda chance de viver. Enquanto abrimos nossos dedos perdemos nossas convicções. Agarre essa chance… Pode ser como pura adrenalina. Como a qualquer momento pudéssemos ter outra chance de viver, como se a qualquer momento, nós pudéssemos nascer de novo.”

- Grey’s Anatomy.

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"Passei a acreditar em signos. Eu pedi para uma moça ler a minha mão, implorei para que alguma..."

“Passei a acreditar em signos. Eu pedi para uma moça ler a minha mão, implorei para que alguma estrela cadente atendesse ao meu pedido. Eu tinha recorrido a São Longuinho e prometi os três pulinhos. Buscando nos astros, nas estrelas, em superstição, qualquer coisa que pudesse me fazer acreditar que ficaríamos juntos.”

- Bianca Menezes.

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"É necessário saber ficar sozinho, em silêncio, mergulhado em si. É fundamental estar satisfeito com..."

“É necessário saber ficar sozinho, em silêncio, mergulhado em si. É fundamental estar satisfeito com a própria companhia.”

- Filipe Ret.

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"Some people stay broken. Some pick up the pieces and put them back together with all the sharp edges..."

“Some people stay broken. Some pick up the pieces and put them back together with all the sharp edges showing.”

- Dot Hutchison, The Butterfly Garden (via quoted-books)

Son Asks Mom If She Enjoys Her Marriage, Her Answer Stuns Him A Lot

“My mom was giving me a haircut. This was back in high school, and I had just started dating this girl I was absolutely crazy about. Stay-up-all-night-thinking-about-her crazy. I was very open with my parents about my dating life, because they had been married twenty-five years (at that point) and radiated happiness, and what I wanted most was what they had.

So I asked her a question: “Mom, do you think you enjoyed being married more when you first got married, or do you enjoy it more now?”

My mom takes all questions with gravity and consideration. The hair clippers stopped for a long time. Then she said: “You know, a marriage is like a river. When it first starts out, it can be quite fierce. There are so many rocks and turbulence. Whitewater stretches where you can be holding on for dear life. And that’s exciting. When your dad and I were first married, I loved how everything was a new adventure. There was so much discovery. But as you keep going down the river, the channel cuts deeper, and the current flows more smoothly and stronger. I have to say that I love my marriage so much more now that I’m sailing on a deep current.”

She could be a poet on the spot, my mom. I remember this almost word for word, and as I’ve gone through life, in tough times I recall these words and remember that life is long, and that good things are worth sticking with, because in ten and twenty and fifty years, they will be deep currents I cannot imagine at this moment.”

A relationship may be easy to give up on when times are tough, but through commitment we can experience a deeper level of love and understanding that we might otherwise not have known, if we hadn’t kept going down the path we chose. Relationships can teach us the most about ourselves – and love is always the answer.

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Little Girl Said The Most Embarrassing Thing To Auntie That Made Her Quit Smoking Finally

About 4 years ago, I used to occasionally have a cigarette after lunch or dinner. When I used to visit my brother, I would make sure that my niece doesn’t see me because I know she loves me so much and I didn’t want her to think smoking is okay.
So apparently, while I would sneak to the balcony to enjoy my cigarette, she would follow me and watch me smoke from behind the balcony door.
Most of my family didn’t know I was a occasional smoker and it is really a stigma in my family to smoke cigarettes, etc.

So fast forward few months, we are at a big family wedding everyone is sitting together having a great time and she looks at me and says :
“I love you auntie. I just want you to know that you shouldn’t smoke because it will make you age and die quickly. Plus you keep hiding in the balcony thinking I wouldn’t see you. So obviously you know it is wrong since you are hiding it !”

I didn’t say a word. My face turned red and I felt everyone looking at me in shock !
Her mother looks at her and says, no your auntie doesn’t smoke, you must be mistaken.
To that she answered : “why are you trying to make me lie, that’s worse than smoking”

Everyone laughed. And I changed the subject immediately!
I no longer smoke and I hope she doesn’t remember.

One of the most precious gifts relatives can give one another is a dose of harsh realism mixed in with love. Hearing that a family member wants only the best for us can provide us with the encouragement we need to make changes that are long overdue. It can be difficult to hear the full implications of our actions spelled out to us, but when someone gives us constructive criticism or makes a suggestion from a place of love and support, it’s usually a good idea to pay attention.

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He Comes To His Neighbor To Complain About Their Noise, But Ends Up Saving A Life

“When I was 24, I moved into an apartment and the couple next door were loud all the time. After putting up with it for a couple weeks, I decided to confront them and politely ask them to be quieter after noon, as I had a job that required me to work the midnight shift, so I always went to bed around noon and got up at 8pm.

I went next door and knocked on the door around 10am and a woman who was 68 answered and I introduced myself and she asked if I had come over to complain about the noise, which I said yes. She explained that both her and her husband are going deaf and they need to speak loudly to each other in order to hear each other. She invited me in and offered me a Pepsi and we just started talking about anything and everything about each other and after about 30 minutes or so we heard a loud bang in the kitchen area of the apartment so we went to investigate and her husband had collapsed and was not breathing. I told her to call 911(emergency services) and I started doing CPR on him, the ambulance and fire department arrived about 10 minutes later and by the time they arrived, I had revived him. I asked if she needed a ride to the hospital and she said no, so after the police took my info and statement for the reports, I went home and went to bed and woke up at 8pm and went next door and knocked and got no answer, so I assumed she was still at the hospital, and went to work that night.

When I came home from work there was a note on my apartment door from the lady asking me to come over. When I went over, she had cooked me breakfast and asked if I would drive her to the hospital as a police officer had driven her home around 3am because she was to distraught to drive, which I said no problem and asked when she wanted to go. When we got to the hospital I followed her to his room in ICU and he was in decent shape and he thanked me for doing CPR, which I replied that anyone would do it. He ended up staying in the hospital for a couple weeks and was released. I ended up becoming friends with this couple ( and never once complained again about the noises they made every day) until they moved to an assisted living facility in another state to be closer to their children, a year later.

Flash forward 10 years and I get a phone call from an attorney in Kentucky asking me to come down to his office. I, of course, was wondering what was going on, so I went down the next day and when I arrived at his office, the lawyer asked me if I knew a couple by their names and I said yes, they used to live next door to me. He told me that the woman had died a couple years ago and that the husband had died a month ago and he was hired by their children to find me, and that the man had changed his will to include me in it. He handed me an envelope that had a check for $25,000 (which I did not take, instead I told the lawyer to give it to the couples kids) and he asked if I would like to meet their children and grandchildren, because they wanted to thank me personally for saving the husband’s life a decade ago and the couple had talked so highly about me saving his life, and also never once complaining about the noises they made and always asking if they needed anything whenever I went to the store or running around, and asking if they would like to go out to eat or see a movie(even if it wasn’t a movie I really wanted to see, I still went to whatever movie the wife wanted to see). I met the family and the two children (who are basically my age) introduced me to their kids as their adopted brother and to this day, we are all still friends and see each other constantly, as they moved to my area shortly after as their parents had a house that they had been renting out when I met them, and it went to the kids, so the son moved into the house with his family and his sister moved up here a few years later. In fact, the oldest daughter of the son is getting married this weekend, and my family and I are going to it.

To this day, I still have no regrets about not taking the money offered. The friendships I have gotten from the couple’s children is more than enough to make me happy.”

You can never know when, where or how you are next going to make new friends. Life is full of surprises and people are thrown together in most random of circumstances. Whatever happens, try to treat others exactly as you would like to be treated. Not only will you feel a warm sense of happiness at having done the right thing in the present, you may well find that you are richly rewarded in the years to come.

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He Comes To The US Feeling Helpless But An Old Couple Changes His Mind

“IT was the summer of 2012. I was headed to the US for my Master’s. I didn’t plan much before I came to the US. Also, I didn’t have any contacts in the town where I was going (Pullman,WA). I had paid a deposit for an apartment that I found on craigslist, while I was in India, and hoped to find a few fellow students nearby if I needed any help.

The day I came to the US, after a massive cultural shock that took some time for me to absorb, I realized what a terrible place I was living in. It was a private home in a typical American residential neighborhood, and the place was literally empty. I just couldn’t wrap my head around the fact how would some one live in such isolation, without any shops/stores nearby or any public transportation (I hadn’t figured out the car culture yet). I just stood there in front of the house, staring back at the empty street behind me. Fortunately, my room mate let me in, and left soon after. I decided to call my parents and my girlfriend to let them know I finally came home. That’s when I realized that my phone and laptop were dead and I forgot to bring US wall adapters to charge them with. I was shit scared. I thought, lets just explore the place, maybe I’ll find an “Electronics shop” nearby.

How wrong was I! I literally walked all around the neighborhood, and forgets shops, didn’t see a single living soul. As I was headed back to my place, I caught a glimpse of a deer crossing my path. Overly excited of watching an actual deer in the middle of the town, I decided to follow a deer. The deer led me to a private property, where an old woman was watering her plants. As I approached her, she asked me “How are you doing?”. As I literally was unaware of this phrase at the time, I replied “Not good actually, I am looking for some shops nearby but can’t find any”

She: Oh, we have a Walmart on X street. Maybe you could go there?

Me: I’m sorry, this is my first day in the US. I needed an adapter to charge my phone and laptop. I’m not sure where Walmart is.

She: Wait, let me go get my husband.

After about 2 mins, an elderly gentleman comes out into the yard.

Husband: How are you doing son? Lets go to Walmart.

They literally took me to Walmart, and I bought the things that I needed. It took me some time to search (20 mins), while they waited for me. When I was done:

ME: Thank you so much. Do you know where I could buy a SIM card here? I really need one, as I need to talk to my parents.

Husband: Lets go to the neighboring town, they have an AT&T store over there. Maybe they can help you out.

I was speechless at this point. The neighboring town was at least 10 miles away, and I heard the lady talking about something cooking in their oven. I literally didn’t have words to express how thankful I was to them. This was literally my first day in the US and these strangers went out of their way to help a guy they saw trespassing into their property.

We eventually went to the neighboring town, and I got what I was looking for. They even drove through the university campus that I was supposed to go to a few days later. It’s difficult perhaps to fully comprehend how kind they were. I hope they live fulfilling lives.”

By Anirudh Deshpande on Quora

If you’ve ever traveled alone, you know how scary it is. Sometimes you don’t even know where to begin or where to what to do. When someone that you’ve never met extends their hand to help, it can make all those fears disappear immediately. It’s incredibly powerful.

If you ever meet someone who is alone in a new place, be sure to ask if they need any information or help. Maybe they just need someone to talk to for a few minutes. That can change everything, and make their life a lot better.

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It Gives Him Goosebumps Every Time He Thinks of the Girl Who Waited For Him At The Next Stop

“About 20 years ago, I bunked (skipped) college that day and went for a random movie with friends. On the way to the theater, I took the ruthless local trains in Mumbai and as karma would have it, got pick-pocketed (wallet stolen). On the way back, completely forgot about the pickpocket incident, bid adieu to friends and got into a bus. The bus was on its way when I rembered my penniless situation… I ran to the front and requested the driver to let me off and explained (more like mumbled) him my situation. He let me get off and there I was walking on a bridge trying to figure out my options – searching my backpack for maybe even one coin to call home.

I must have walked 10 minutes and reached the end of the bridge, still in deep thought, when a girl in a blue tee shirt, maybe a year or two younger to me, asked me if I had gotten pick pocketed. I was speechless and must have barely managed a “huh?”… She handed me a Rs10 note (more than enough for the bus ride) – and explained she was on the bus earlier, had heard my story, got off at the next stop, waited for me for 10 minutes to hand me money.

It still gives me goosebumps everytime. Thank you.”

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Have you gone out of your way to help someone in need? Not only is it usually pretty easy for you, but a small act of kindness can change someone’s life. How powerful is that? Every day you have a chance to change someone’s life. You never know what someone else is going through, even when they’re trying to appear strong. The least you can do is offer to help. As a bonus, you’ll feel pretty good, too.

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Man Gives Up His First Class Seat As Old Man Occupies It, Then A Third Man Comes And Changes His Life

If you thought being good won’t get you anywhere, read on:

“I was flying from the states to the Middle East for a job interview, my connecting flight was little late and when I arrived at the gate the boarding had already started, first class passengers already entered, now the economy class were boarding. After I got to my first class seat, an old man was sitting on my seat already, I showed the seat number to the gentleman on my seat, he couldn’t understand and he just looked away, then I turned to the hostess, she said yeah I saw he is not in his seat, I’m waiting for two male hostess to come and carry him to his seat in economy class. Then I looked closer and realized that the gentleman on my seat had medical issues and was old and couldn’t walk without help.

I told her her never mind, just give me his seat in economy class and I will take it.

Then I went to economy class.

An hour later when the seat belts where turned off, I saw the hostess point a finger at me while talking to a man. Then the man came to me and said

The man: what you did right there was really a great thing.

Me: who are you?

The man: I’m sitting right next to the elderly man that you gave up your seat for

Me: Oh, It is not a big deal

The man: the old man on your seat has no idea what you did for him, he doesn’t know someone gave up the seat for him and paid a lot for that.

Me: not a big deal, ( I was eager to get back to in-flight entertainment )

The man: here is my business card, (he wrote his home phone at the back).

Me: thanks

The interview I travelled for that long didn’t work out. I googled the business card he gave me while I was in my hotel room waiting for a flight back home and realized they do the same work as the company I was originally interviewing for.

I gave him a call in the morning and said I want to meet him, I met in his office, after coffee, and greetings, I broke the news:

Me: I need a job, I know what you guys do and I can contribute to it.

The man: you are hired, you start first of May.

The shortest interview I have ever been to or anyone I know.

That man became my mentor for the rest of my life. I don’t work for him anymore but we are still close.

He made me a stronger person and I appreciate him. I gave up a first class seat and gained a first class mentor.”

This goes on to show that you may never know when luck may come in disguise and turn your wheel of fortune. So next time you’re about to say something mean or be selfish, just pause and think: is that really the kind of person you want to be? Being good doesn’t hurt and it doesn’t cost a penny either. So smile as much as you can, give those in need a helping hand and do your bit for the greater good. It may or may not make you a millionaire but you’re certainly going to be a happier and fulfilled person in the long run.

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