Gide, André

Invejar a felicidade alheia é loucura: não nos saberíamos servir dela. A felicidade não se quer de confecção, mas sob medida

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Couto, Mia

Sou feliz só por preguiça. A infelicidade dá uma trabalheira pior que doença: é preciso entrar e sair dela, afastar os que nos querem consolar, aceitar pêsames por uma porção da alma que nem chegou a falecer.

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Dantas, Júlio

O bem que se deseja só existe enquanto o vemos de longe; e toda a felicidade sonhada desaparece para nós no momento em que julgamos possuí-la

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Aristóteles

A felicidade consiste em acções perfeitamente conformes à virtude, e entendemos por virtude não a virtude relativa, mas a virtude absoluta. Entendemos por virtude relativa a que diz respeito às coisas necessárias e por virtude absoluta a que tem por finalidade a beleza e a honestidade

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Pasolini, Pier

Tema: Supérfluo
Os bens supérfluos tornam a vida supérflua

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Caeiro, Alberto

Ai de ti e de todos que levam a vida/ A querer inventar a máquina de fazer felicidade!

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Gandhi, Mohandas

O amor é a força mais abstracta, e também a mais potente que há no mundo

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Colette, Sidonie

O amor não é um sentimento honesto

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Textos Judaicos

O amor é o maior prazer acessível ao homem

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Caeiro, Alberto

Amar é pensar.

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Couto, Mia

Tema: Viver
Existe no nada essa ilusão de plenitude que faz parar a vida e anoitecer as vozes.

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Nietzsche, Friedrich

Tema: Moral
A moral não passa de uma interpretação - ou mais exactamente de uma falsa interpretação - de certos fenómenos

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Cardoso, Miguel Esteves

Tema: Portugal
Os Portugueses não se sentem tristes, só quando acontece uma coisa que os entristeceu – também se sentem tristes quando não acontece uma coisa que os alegre.

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Bosco, Henri

Tema: Solidão
Não há dois tempos iguais de solidão porque nunca se está só da mesma maneira

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Sagan, Carl

Tema: Evidência
A ausência de evidência não significa evidência de ausência

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Raphael Hotel - Rome, ItalyUndoubtedly, one of the highlights of...

Raphael Hotel - Rome, Italy

Undoubtedly, one of the highlights of Raphael Hotel is its unbeatable location in the heart of Rome’s Centro Storico, just off Piazza Navona and within walking distance from the Spanish Steps, the Pantheon, and St Peter’s Basilica. Its interiors, however, filled with Picasso ceramics and paintings by Mirò, are no less impressive. Rooms are decorated in a refined classic style, with hardwood floors and elegant antique furnishings, but have all the modern luxuries, from writing desks and flat-screen TVs to bath amenities by Italian jewelry and luxury goods brand, Bulgari. Two of the hotel’s floors contain modern accommodation units design by famous American artist and architect Richard Meier, and the rooftop restaurant serves organic Mediterranean cuisine along with exquisite wines and inspiring city views.

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Artist Residence - London, England A quirky and intimate London...

Artist Residence - London, England

A quirky and intimate London hotel, Artist Residence offers creative accommodation in a handsome Regency style building on Cambridge Street in Pimlico. Inside, the décor is an eclectic blend of exposed brick walls, original art, and chic fabrics. The guestrooms - 10 stylish, individually designed spaces - come with bespoke vintage furniture, fully stocked mini fridges, and Egyptian cotton linens, while the suites boast stunning freestanding baths. Additional features include a cozy lounge and a trendy café with an open kitchen serving tasty dishes based on fresh, seasonal produce.

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If You Really Love, Don’t Just Text, It’s Just Like Cheating

The digital information age has made staying in constant contact so effortless and commonplace. We can now share the most important moments of our lives as frequently as we like with the ease of a few simple clicks. Staying in touch takes little exertion. Sometimes we have relationships with no physical communication at all. We can now do it completely alone, scrolling social feeds in the comfort of our own homes, or cozily on the toilet at work.

However, no matter interconnected we are digitally, the ease of information sharing and instant communication can place a wedge between couples that we shouldn’t ignore.

It’s common to text someone you care about all day, and how couldn’t you? With the aforementioned ease in which we communicate, combined with the simple fact that you’re thinking about them, you’d have to be some sort of tenured Buddhist monk to have the self-restraint not to say something. In fact, I don’t think texting frequently throughout the day is a bad thing, but we should pose some questions before conclusions are reached.

When you’re texting are you ignoring friends that you’re actually hanging out with? When you go get beers with a buddy, can you not put your phone down or ignore it for an hour without having crippling anxiety that your partner will be either angry with you or cheating on you?

In texting, do you have plans (any plans at all) to meet up with that person face-to-face some time that week or weekend? Are you going to pick her up for dinner at her favorite restaurant on Thursday so you text her Wednesday afternoon expressing your excitement for tomorrow’s plans? Are you surprising him with tickets to the season opener of his favorite basketball team and just can’t wait to tell him, so you shoot him a picture of the confirmation email?

I used to be the type of person who was against texting all day, even though I enjoyed it and it was a consistent source of laughter. Recent research and previous articles written regarding the intricacies of texting, have proven that there is in fact a dopamine release when you receive texts messages. Therefore, it only makes sense that these dopamine releases will either increase, or steadily stay at a high level, if those texts come from someone you really enjoy. I don’t think texting is a short road to disaster in relationships. That is, if you’re using it in the right way.

A recent article by Psychology Today suggests that texting in relationships can go one of two ways. The scenario involving higher intimacy has couples texting comments of honest affection and sincere connection (i.e. “I miss you” or “I’m thinking about you and hope you’re kicking today’s butt” or “I know yesterday was rough, so I’m on my way to your office with a breakfast burrito from your favorite food cart”). The scenario in which couples are headed for trouble is when texting is done to resolve conflict, to repair damage done, or (the worst) to straight up fight and argue.

We know the dangers of cyber bullying and the horrendous outcomes that occur when someone says hurtful things while cowering behind an illuminated screen. Though we live in the dawn of emojis and GIFs, emotion is still hard to read via text message, especially when abbreviations are brought into play. If you need to argue, be the bigger partner and suggest meeting in person to talk it out. It doesn’t matter if you’re “the shyer one” or “afraid he’ll clam up”, it might end up saving your relationship in the long run.

You should also be honest with your lover about how you want to communicate digitally. If you don’t like texting all day, say so. It might be a good idea to pair this with something like what Adam Sandler’s character “Sonny” (from the movie Big Daddy) said to Joey Lauren Adam’s character “Layla” after they start dating, “When I’m not with you, I’m thinking of you.”

Honesty like this, especially when it’s sincere and from the heart, will go a long way. If you like texting, but are going to spend some time with friends, shoot straight! Any functional, adult relationship will understand if one party says, “Hey, babe, I’m going out with the girls tonight so I might be away from my phone. But I’m excited to see you after and hope you had a good day.”

Save your jealousy and “my mind might wander” BS for a different article, because if you really love and care about the other person as much as you say, you should trust them and respect their time with friends. If they gave you reason not to trust them, ask yourself why yous are still with them?

In closing, we are all blessed by communication convenience; however, we need to be wise about it if we want to harbor relationships that mean anything, and can withstand difficult times. Don’t ignore your friends for your lover, and don’t ignore your lover for whatever’s on Instagram. Trust me, the notifications and text messages aren’t going anywhere. It’s all in the digital ether waiting for you later.

On top of cheating others out of having quality conversations, moments, and relationships with you, you’re cheating yourself just as much.

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The Story of Us (28 Pics)

It all started when I joined the Army

I joined as a Medical Specialist and he first spoke to me overhearing a conversation I was having with a buddy. I was worried about an upcoming qualifying test and he tried to reassure me that I would pass. I assumed he was hitting on me and cussed him out....I did pass.

We didn't speak again until you called cadence and I said you had a great voice.

Eventually we started to hang out and we clicked. We were inseparable since then. Upon graduation I got stationed in MO, David National Guard in VA. What was supposed to be a 2 week visit to see me never ended because I asked him to marry me and he said yes.

The following year

We had Kaileb and he was amazing

David was instantly the best dad

But the Army had other plans for us....

David deployed shortly after Kaileb was born

He came to see me for two weeks a couple of months into the deployment but then went back for the rest of the year duration. We spoke as often as we could but it was hard. He missed so much.

Soon another curveball

While he was deployed we found out I was pregnant from his visit. With twins.
*note that I was still active duty this whole time

They came 2 months early

David missed the entire pregnancy and birth

David was already en route home

So they rushed him to the head of every processing line and he arrived 4 days after they were born. We named them Cole and Christian.

Again, he was instantly amazing

But it wasn't all easy

Christian had Ptosis and had to get not one....

but two eye surgeries

and he still needs one more to fix it permanently.

But they grew like weeds anyway

Them at 3 next to the onsies we brought them home in

Years later we decided to have another

on Valentine's Day 2014 I took a pregnancy test and it was positive!

We decided to buy our first home

Until this point we moved to a new house pretty much every year due to his National Guard job (he is full time)

Maia was finally here

We had our daughter

and the boys love her

Daddy cant get enough

neither can Maia

She is so big already

The real purpose for ths post though is for David

Thank you for always loving me and showing me that you care. Thank you for giving me a kiss goodbye every morning. Thank you for believing in me and dreaming big with me.

Even though we moved about 5 times in 7 years

I couldn't imagine settling down with anyone but you

You have always been the best shoulder to lean on

My memories of you are like a dream

and I hope I never wake up

You embrace my humor

This was our Christmas card with the caption "May Your Holidays be Painless"

Sometimes we get fancy

but I love that most of the time we lounge in PJs with the family and just have fun

You are always there

like the time my mother committed suicide the year the twins were born. I still have sobbing fits missing her but you always understand.

The life we have built

We started out with almost nothing and have built this life together. You are really my best friend and I can't wait to change the world with you. I love you Happy 7th Anniversary. If you choose to browse today I hope that you see this and smile. Thank you for being the best partner I could ever have asked for.