Tema: Sinceridade
Os homens são sempre sinceros. Mudam de sinceridade, nada mais
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Bonhoeffer, Dietrich
Tema: Acção
A acção não surge do pensamento, mas de uma disposição para assumir responsabilidades
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A acção não surge do pensamento, mas de uma disposição para assumir responsabilidades
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Blake, William
Tema: Percepção
Se as portas da percepção fossem limpas, tudo apareceria ao homem como realmente é: infinito
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Se as portas da percepção fossem limpas, tudo apareceria ao homem como realmente é: infinito
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Galdós, Bento
Tema: Sorte
O que chamamos sorte nada mais é do que a projecção das nossas qualidades e dos nossos defeitos
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O que chamamos sorte nada mais é do que a projecção das nossas qualidades e dos nossos defeitos
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"Penso demais na vida, as vezes até sinto ela como uma velha conhecida, mas no fundo não passamos de..."
“Penso demais na vida, as vezes até sinto ela como uma velha conhecida, mas no fundo não passamos de dois estranhos…”
- Efeito Colateral. (via inarcisos)
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- Efeito Colateral. (via inarcisos)
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les3chambres - Paris, FranceWith only 3 rooms, les3chambres is...
les3chambres - Paris, France
With only 3 rooms, les3chambres is one of the most exclusive and charming guesthouses in Paris. Housed in a typical 19th century building close to Montmartre, this tiny, luxurious bed & breakfast is packed with tasteful antique furnishings, rich textiles, and smart designer details. The elegant, individually styled rooms exude a refined Parisian atmosphere while offering all the contemporary amenities of a high-end hotel. A decadent French breakfast is served each morning in the eclectic turquoise lounge library.
"I am trying to find myself in all of the chaos, find something that I can call me inside the screams..."
“I am trying to find myself
in all of the chaos,
find something that I can call me
inside the screams and inside
the ‘you shoulds’ and ‘you have to be’s.’”
- Samantha Schutz, I Don’t Want To Be Crazy (via wordsnquotes)
in all of the chaos,
find something that I can call me
inside the screams and inside
the ‘you shoulds’ and ‘you have to be’s.’”
- Samantha Schutz, I Don’t Want To Be Crazy (via wordsnquotes)
Vander Urbani Resort - Ljubljana, SloveniaNestled in the...
Vander Urbani Resort - Ljubljana, Slovenia
Nestled in the historic center of Ljubljana, Vander Urbani Resort occupies 4 old townhouses, but inside, the atmosphere is surprisingly hip and sexy. The hotel’s 16 contemporary rooms have a sleek, sophisticated design, up-to-the-minute technology, and plush bathrooms with Molton Brown toiletries. The exquisite restaurant on the ground floor serves lovely Slovenian cuisine, while the rooftop terrace comes with an elegant infinity pool overlooking the city’s inspiring architecture.
Before something great happens, everything falls apart.
Before something great happens, everything falls apart.
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8 Common Misconceptions About Housewives
Housewives have always made great TV. Over the years, we’ve seen them in soap operas, like Peyton Place, followed by modern shows, like Desperate Housewives. The current reality shows based on The Real Housewives continue to make news. This time, The Real Housewives of Atlanta has created a storm of controversy over its depiction of independent African American women.
Let’s look at another type of reality which is much closer to the truth. There are many misconceptions about housewives that don’t get their start on TV. Here are eight misconceptions that might resonate with you if you are a stay-at-home housewife.
1. People think you are very traditional
There are loads of people who think that housewives always stayed at home to tend the house and the kids. The truth is that many women have had to work over the centuries. An article in the Cambridge Journals shows that in eighteenth-century London, large numbers of women were working outside the home in order to help their husbands or simply to make ends meet. In Victorian times, the majority of women worked outside the home. So, the decision to stay at home and care for the kids is not always based upon tradition.
2. People think that your husband has decided your fate
Some people might be convinced that your husband put his foot down and said you had to stay at home. They might even mention a vacancy in their workplace in order to taunt you or to find out the truth. The reality is that you have decided how to run the household with your partner and that you are both perfectly happy with this arrangement.
3. People think you opted out of the real world
They look on you as having no ambition within the so-called “real world.” After all, why would anyone want to spend all their time with housework and raising kids? It is a pity that these people have separated the two worlds. The real world is also right inside your home, where you are playing a crucial role in the lives of your partner and children.
4. People think you have no right to be paid for all the work you do
The feminist movement in the 1970’s founded the Wages for Housework campaign which fought for housewives’ wages. This was an obvious and just cause. In spite of the great progress made in many feminist issues, modern society still does not want housewives to be paid. In Italy, Giulia Bongiorno, a famous lawyer, is advocating that housewives should be paid in recognition for the important work they do.
“Women who choose to work at home should be rewarded, not humiliated.” – Giulia Bongiorno
5. People think you are dependent and submissive
The reality shows have a lot to answer for. We have all seen the trophy wives who are depicted as being incapable, beautiful, and rather vapid. An Oregon State University survey shows that 70 per cent of the 18 to 29 age group enjoyed these reality shows. This is alarming because they’ve probably never questioned the stereotypes about stay-at-home wives or other false prejudices that abound in our society. The reality is that running a household is not for the faint hearted — you are autonomous and in control.
6. People still think you have no life outside the home
Have you seen those ads for cleaning products? The ones where the women are the protagonists in about 90 per cent of the cases? Some even depict women cleaning the home while the husband takes a nap. Why don’t TV commercials reflect the reality where housewives do manage to escape the chores from time to time and have a life of their own outside the home? Loads of housewives play sports, go to films, and generally have a good time pursuing their interests and hobbies. It would be great to see more ads of men struggling with vacuum cleaners for a change, although the number of men helping in the home is increasing.
7. People think you are not an expert
Advertising, again, is to blame for portraying housewives as the go-to persons for cooking and cleaning, while men are the experts at fixing things. It seems that the housewife is only happy when cleaning and will seek a male expert when things go wrong. The false assumption is that housewives are just a little helpless and only excel at certain tasks. Celebrity chefs, like Jaime Oliver, often steal the limelight in the world of cooking. The reality is that the hardworking housewives are the real chefs and their work often goes unrewarded and unnoticed. How many times have you been tempted to tell the whole family to cook for themselves while you take a few days off?
8. People think it’s easy being a housewife
Either they have forgotten what it is like or they have someone who does all the hard work for them. I firmly believe housewives should be called managers. That is what they do, they mange the household. Shopping, cooking, gardening, budgeting, fetching kids, and helping with homework are not mindless tasks. However, that is the myth that many people seem to believe.
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Fight all of your battles on your knees and you will win every time.
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8 Struggles Only Parents With Difficult Kids Would Understand
The excitement of having a child could wane when you are dealt with a child who breaks and stretches you. However, no one can ignore that there is beauty in being a parent. Whether you are pushed or not, every part of parenthood has to be accepted and appreciated! These are some things parents of difficult kids will understand.
They always feel responsible for the situation
They always believe they are at fault for their children being difficult. No matter how light people might try to paint the picture of their children’s troublesome nature, they know that it is something they will forever be stuck with. They think no one out there can understand their struggle except them.
They will always receive advice from strangers
People are never short of advice for how they need to raise their kids. Most times, such advice is stern and solemn like, “Your child needs a really good spanking, so that they can learn what respect means.” It’s almost as if these people giving advice think you really do not know how to fulfill your job of parenting.
They are always your kids
It doesn’t matter how difficult they are, or how upbeat and tense they make you feel, they are still your kids. You will treat them the same way that other simple and respectful kids are treated. They are your responsibility, your excitement, and (sometimes) your pain, but you love them just the way they are.
They receive sympathetic comments and glances
The truth is some people actually understand what you are going through. They have difficult children too. You’re not alone. They understand the challenge, terror, and pain your children may be causing you. They will be happy to give you a sad smile, or just scoff and look away while you continue to deal with the difficulties of making your child listen.
They understand the lines of success and failures
It is a success to be a parent, whether your kids are difficult or not. However, when you hear others term their roles as successful you feel your’s is more of a mixed blend. It is tough because parents of difficult kids deal more with failures of their children, rather than enjoying the success of being a parent. You have to get used to embracing failure as much as you embrace success.
They learn every day
No parent learns harder or tougher than a parent with a difficult child. They are stuck with the attitude of always trying. They can’t quit. They just have to keep on going at their roles, whether it is in teaching, showing love, guiding, offering attention, and more. It is more of a continuous journey that doesn’t seem to end.
They will always compare themselves to others
It is hard not to envy other parents who have easy-going children. You wish your children were just like their’s. Parents of difficult children can get lost in their emotions. They might wish and hope that they were not in such shoes. Or they might want to be placed in a different and more positive situation instead.
They are afraid of the future
They may not worry as much of the present, as they will of the future. They can handle the present the best way they can, but what about the future? They seem to ask a lot of questions regarding the future of their kids. They wonder, “What will become of their future?” In fact, they constantly live in dread of what their kids may turn out to be.
At the end of the day, being a parent is a proud thing. Difficult kids could become resolute, resilient, and determined. These are attitudes that could serve as strengths, when striving for success. It is important for us all to adjust our thinking and perception of difficult children. The world is a blend of all sorts, and they only add to this blend.
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7 Crazy Things That Over-Thinkers Can Relate To
Imagine this: You sent a text to a person that you just went out on a date with, and it said you had a great time and would love to hang out again. Then, 20 minutes later, the person replies with a smiley face :) You think, “OMG, what does that mean? It’s a smiley face, so that’s good, right? That must mean he wants to see me again too! But wait. He didn’t actually say that. Maybe he really doesn’t want to see me again and didn’t want to hurt my feelings, so he thought it was easier to say nothing and just send a smiley face. But wait. Maybe he’s just busy and didn’t have time to write anything, and he’ll write again later saying he had a good time too. But wait. If he was really interested, he would have made the time to write back even if he’s busy … But wait …”
Does this sound like you? If it does, then you just might be an over-thinker.
And here are 7 crazy things that you will be able to relate to:
1. We always make assumptions.
“She rolled her eyes at me, she must think I’m stupid.”
“He didn’t text me back for 3 hours … he must be doing that on purpose. He’s trying to blow me off!”
“I haven’t seen my fried Mary for 3 months, and she’s probably mad at me for not calling her.”
These are assumptions. They are not necessarily based in truth. But an over-thinker’s mind makes all sorts of assumptions. That’s part of the problem. Usually, making assumptions creates more problems – and more over-thinking. Then you get caught in a nasty downward spiral. Instead, us over-thinkers should live by this rule: “DNAA” … Do Not Assume Anything. Instead, ask people for the facts. Don’t jump to conclusions.
2. We always assume the worst.
“He was supposed to be here by 5:00. It’s now 5:12. OMG what if he was killed in a car accident? I wonder who I would call to find out? What route was he driving? Let me go check the police and traffic reports online to see if everything’s okay. Oh, that’s ridiculous. He’s only 12 minutes late. Maybe he just lost track of time. But maybe he didn’t. OMG what’s wrong?!?!”
Usually, the worst doesn’t happen. Sure, it does sometimes, but if you think about it, 99% of the stuff we over-think and over-worry about doesn’t actually come to pass. So wasting so much mental energy trying figuring out why people died or were captured by an alien really doesn’t do us any good.
3. We always think in terms of “What if…”
“This guy asked me out, and I don’t really think I like him, so I’m not going to go. But what if he’s really my soul mate? If I don’t go out with him, I’ll never know! But he’s kind of short. Oh that’s stupid – am I really not going to give him a chance because of that? Oh, but what if I go out with him and he’s a bump on a log. Then I’ve wasted a few hours of my life. And if I went out with him, what would I wear? Nothing too sexy because I don’t want him to like me THAT much. But what if I really do like him, then I will want him to find me sexy….”
There are literally infinite “what if’s” that could occur. And we imagine every little teensy tiny scenario. They drive us over-thinkers crazy! We’re afraid to make a mistake, so we think about all the things that COULD happen. So we should try to practice living in the NOW. Because that is really all we can control.
4. We always stress that we can’t control things.
“My son loves baseball. I HATE baseball. But what if he took guitar lessons and started a band? I would love that … because I love music! Oh, but I can’t take way his baseball, that would make me a bad parent. Maybe he would like football? At least that’s not boring. Oh but what if he gets a concussion and has brain damage. That would be awful. What other ways can I make sure that I don’t have to go watch boring baseball games? Oh, if only I could wave a magic wand and make things happen the way I want them to!”
We can’t control anything or anyone but ourselves. Over-thinking about how we can change things so we can be happier, or life will be better somehow, just sends us into another crazy cycle of spinning our mental wheels.
5. We are frequently wrong.
“After days of sleepless nights because of over-thinking it, I am convinced he doesn’t like me!”
“That little jerk! I’m sure he said that because of …”
Because over-thinkers imagine SO many different possibilities and scenarios, statistically speaking, we’re often wrong with our assumptions. Because if you come up with 100 different possibilities in your head, there’s going to be a 99% chance that you are wrong – because only one of those actually WILL be right. So don’t convince yourself that you are right – or wrong. Most of the time, you will never know the truth with your own over-analyzing.
6. We get sick of our own “analysis paralysis.”
“OMG, just stop it! You’ll never figure it out.”
“I know I’m torturing myself … but I just can’t stop it!!!”
“My head hurts and I’m exhausted from thinking about this!”
Over-thinkers say these things to themselves very frequently. Running things over in our minds over and over really does lead to exhaustion! Sometimes we really wish there was an “off switch” in our brains so we can stop. When this happens, try thinking about something else. Or doing something else. It really can distract you and calm you down.
7. We seek other people’s opinions to help us over-think (or help us stop).
“I’m going to forward this text to Julie and see what she thinks he means.”
“I got a job offer, but I can’t make a decision because I can think of too many pros and cons! Let me ask 5 of my friends what they would do … ”
Because over-thinkers get stuck in “analysis paralysis,” they often look outside themselves for answers. They either get sick of themselves, exhausted, or the situation just becomes so cloudy from the over-thinking that they can’t think straight. It’s during that times that over-thinkers turn to other people to help them make decisions, and even to calm them down. This is actually a good thing to do. It helps put some objectivity into our minds, and/or distracts us from our own craziness.
Over-thinking isn’t necessarily bad. It says we care. It says we have complex minds. It shows that we know there are multiple scenarios that can play out in life. But the secret is to gain control over your mind so it doesn’t run out of control. And you can do this, it just takes some effort!
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