Tema: Dor
Dai a palavra à dor: a dor que não fala, geme no coração até que o parte
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Junger, Ernst
Hoje em dia apenas a pessoa que já não acredita num final feliz, apenas aquele que conscientemente renunciou a ele, é capaz de viver. Não existe um século feliz; mas existem momentos de felicidade, e existe felicidade no momento.
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Gabor, Zsa Zsa
Eu quero um homem que seja carinhoso e compreensivo. É pedir muito, de um milionário?
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Nietzsche, Friedrich
Quando amamos queremos que os nossos defeitos permaneçam escondidos... não por vaidade, mas para que o ser amado não sofra. Aquele que ama gostaria mesmo de aparecer como um deus... e também isto se não deve à vaidade
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Worry is the interest paid in advance on a debt…
Worry is the interest paid in advance on a debt in advance on a debt you may never owe.
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10 Things You Should Defend For Your Kids No Matter What Others Say
Sometimes kids do need us their parents or older ones to stand up and defend them. It adds to their character and their self-esteem. In the process of doing this you are also able to correct common misconceptions and set matters straight.
1. They aren’t dumb, they simply need more time
Kids can be slow learners. Some of the greatest minds of all time started late. People like Albert Einstein and Steve Jobs were not A students while in school, but everyone can attest to their tremendous success later in life. It is harsh and wrong for anyone to be conclusive of your child, regardless of his/her present status and parents should do well to defend this.
2. They are not stubborn, they are independent
It is wrong to say someone is stubborn; it seems the speaker of such statement means your child is great at not listening to others and acting stupid. But such connotations writes off the child’s ability to creatively think on his/her own and make the decision that is appealing to them. They can’t be stubborn, but they can be independent.
3. They are not fat, they are big
Being fat is an abusive term. The speaker of such statement could want to mean that your child is a glutton and he/she is not adjusted to a specific size. But we all are made differently and being big or mature could have been taken or inherited from someone in the family. And such decision may not be a choice presented to your child.
4. They are not shy, they like to be alone
Being alone means your child appreciates solitude and wants to enjoy a relationship with their own self. Some children deserve to have their space to think and understand what is going on around them. Being alone or spending time with themselves doesn’t mean they can’t speak out if they have to.
5. They are not lazy; they only like to do what is right
Many people think that you have to be a jack of all trades and always work to be the ideal person. But success doesn’t mean hard work but also smart work. One has to prioritize what he/she spends their energy on. And it is great if your kids are defended to understand this concept that even if they have to work they have to also be choosy on what they invest their energy in.
6. They don’t cry a lot, they are expressive
It may be that your child is bullied or has cause to be emotional about every provocation. People could remark that they are too emotional or cry a lot, which could be perceived as a weakness. However it is great to stand up for them and let the world know that they are not tearful but rather expressive.
7. They are not arrogant, they like to be special
There is nothing wrong in wanting to be treated like a king rather than being abused as a beggar. If your children demand respect and to be treated right; no one should mistake this for arrogance and insult them for having some self-worth. On occasion like this you can stand up and defend them appropriately.
8. They are not slow, they are cautious
Some people are great at taking their time to act. If this is termed as being slow, you have to correct this perception and defend your child by letting others know that they are only acting cautiously.
9. They are not dirty, they are learning
Being neat and being averse to taking risk or doing something new or fun doesn’t make your child awful or out of place. It is always better to correct this notion by standing up for them to make the world understand that they are learning and during this process they can get some things messed up.
10. They are not too forward, they are smart
Sometimes acting clever means you have to act quick and fast. They are not trying to look down on others and make others feel bad, they just want to be counted first and show they can respond faster.
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When you realize that you’re constantly treating a person a lot better than they treat you, it’s time to make a change.
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8 Daily Habits Of The Happiest People In The World
If only there was a machine that could measure the level of happiness and distinguish what affects it… Oh wait, there isn’t. And yet, in most cases, we can tell a happy person from an unhappy one. Why is that so? We’ll look at some of the happy people and explore their routines. As these are different people, their habits may seem to contradict each other, but that’s just a surface of things. Needless to say, these habits won’t necessarily make you happy; still, they may be a great source of inspiration for another joyful day. What do happy people do?
1. They value family and company
Indonesians are a well-known proof of a popular axiom ‘wealth is not everything’. Living in slums, not having enough fresh water, facing tsunamis and the discomforts of overpopulation, they rejoice in their families and friends. In the country where different ethnicities and religions coexist, there is a special sense of tolerance. The national survey reports that it’s family matters that make Indonesians so happy.
2. They try to fulfill their basic needs
In many respects, especially those connected with climate, we can’t change our comfort zone, but this is not the reason to deprive yourself of those basic needs that can be fulfilled. What about the joys of sleep? Richard Shane, a scientist who once suffered through insomnia, has dedicated an entire series of articles to sleeping well. They feature the matters that are not covered in the literature of this kind too often, for example, about relaxing your tongue. The scientist says that sleep deprivation can really make you unhappy, and on the contrary, healthy sleep has enormous positive impact.
3. They help other people
This works simply and surely: when you help others, you are not alone in this world, and happiness of others makes you happy, too.
Mahatma Gandhi was reported to say, “The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.”
Working with pets often helps overcome depression.
4. They can stand up and say no
There is a chance you can be lost in volunteering and helping others – in a bad sense. As every worker, volunteers may get a burnout, which has already become a popular research subject.
Sonya Derian says, “If you say yes to everything, never discerning the right yes for you, what difference does it make what you’re saying yes to? Your yes loses its authority”.
5. They stop living for the future
Alan Watts, a philosopher and writer who used to popularize Eastern philosophy in Britain, particularly in his book ‘The Wisdom of Insecurity: A Message for an Age of Anxiety’, argues that we live in the future too much. Craving to live better, people hurry, work too hard, and struggle emotionally for the sake of abstract future. But it is possible to live happily in the present without the assurance that the future will also be good.
6. They have a dream
Another Eastern concept of happiest people gaining popularity in the West is ikigai, “the reason you wake up in the morning”, and some happy people definitely have one. The legend has it that one woman was returned to life after a lethal disease when to the ancestors’ question ‘Who are you?’ she answered: “I am the one who wakes up each day to care for my family, and nurture the young minds of the children at my school”. A dream is something about the future, and yet it can shape your happy present.
7. They make things happen
They don’t cry for the moon and don’t complain. Despite of his ASL, Stephen Hawking has made prominent scientific discoveries. What is more, he found vivid words to tell the world about his findings.
8. They can wait
Sophie Fontanel is a writer who spent many years in deliberate celibacy. Not that she didn’t want sex at all and not that she was against it. She only insisted that people can wait. They don’t need to force themselves info relationships just for the reason that everyone does it. This waiting is not at all like waiting for a prince.
“I think it’s a mistake to think that women are always expecting love. We are expecting to be in good hands, even if these good hands are just for two nights or one week”.
This doesn’t mean that you have to live in celibacy but it means that sometimes you have to wait for what you desire. Happy people can be passionate about other cravings just like this.
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14 Things Only Coffee Drinkers Would Understand
Coffee for some is an indispensable part of their everyday lives and it’s not just for the caffeine buzz. It’s about the experience from the roasting process and experimenting with different roast combinations to the actual taste and smell of the final product.
You might call us pretentious or find us to be insufferable but for those of us that can define a nightmare as having no coffee available, here is a list of things that only a coffee drinker would understand.
We Don’t Buy Pre-Ground Coffee
Real coffee lovers don’t purchase pre-ground coffee.
Why?
Coffee Confidential lists four reasons why you shouldn’t buy pre-ground coffee – contamination, oxygen, moisture and carbon dioxide depletion. You can read more about it on their site, but basically coffee beans have volatile flavor compounds and aromatics that dissipate once the bean becomes ground. This means that the longer the ground is allowed to sit, the more dull the flavor gets until it finally becomes stale and tastes like that sludge that’s been sitting in the coffee pot at work for way too long.
You Understand The Importance Of A Good Grinder
It’s not enough to just grind beans right before making a cup of coffee. You understand the importance of both grind size and uniformity to ensure consistent and predictable extractions.
The Best Part Of Waking Up
… isn’t Folgers in your cup, but the smell of a fresh batch of coffee being made. Smells can trigger good feelings and feelings of wakefulness as well as signal the tastes to come.
You Know What This Is
You may know it as a vacpot, vacuum brewed coffee, siphon brewer, siphon vacuum coffee… whatever the case is though, you know what it is.
You Do Not Consider This Coffee
I have nothing against Starbucks and their coffee, but don’t you just hate when you’re with someone and they tell you that they’re just dying for a cup of coffee and then order a frappuccino. While it very well may be the embodiment of delicious, we all know the truth… a frappuccino is not coffee. It’s a milkshake with some caffeine!
While We’re At It… You Also Don’t Consider Decaf To Be Coffee Either
Hoping to drop the caffeine addiction? Guess what, even decaffeinated coffee comes with at least a small dose of caffeine.
It’s also not healthy because of the toxic solvents that are used in the process to strip the caffeine.
Decaf shouldn’t be considered coffee nor should it exist.
We Understand Pulling A Perfect Shot Of Espresso Is An Art Form
The perfect espresso shot may be subject to personal taste but there are certain characteristics that a shot of espresso must have if it is to be considered perfect.
When It Comes To Espresso You Know It’s All About The Crema
That golden, frothy colored liquid that comes out during an espresso extraction is the crema and it’s a good indication as to the freshness of the bean, how fully it’s been extracted, and the evenness of the extraction. The thickness and its marbled effect is also what allows for latte art.
There’s No ‘X’ In Espresso If You’re From The US
Sure, the Oxford English Dictionary lists expresso as an often-occurring variant, but if you’re from America, it’s incorrect.
There’s No Such Thing As Too Much For You
Those of us that love coffee know that there’s no such thing as too strong of a cup of coffee, drinking too many cups or having too much caffeine flowing through our bodies.
You Don’t Know The Meaning Of Depression In The Face Of A Good Cup Of Coffee
Studies show that having a cup of coffee can reduce the risk of depression. Of course, there are also studies that show that drinking too much coffee can actually increase depression, but we don’t buy into that. The only time we get depressed, when it comes to coffee, is when we’re served a bad cup.
Milk And Sugar Are Optional For Us
Milk is a necessity if you want a latte and you might take a touch of sugar to enhance a mediocre cup of coffee’s flavor, but you also know how to enjoy your coffee black so that you can truly enjoy its natural flavor profiles and sweetness on its own.
You Never Say No To Coffee
You never say no to someone asking you to grab a cup of coffee. In fact, if a friend wants to get you to come out of hiding and hang out, all they need to do is suggest a coffee date. It can get to the point of actually coming close to a nuisance if you actually have things that need to be done and get multiple requests within the day to grab a cup… keyword almost.
Bad Coffee Is Better Than No Coffee
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