Tema: Escrita
Escrevemos porque ninguém nos ouve
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Pascoaes, Teixeira
O amor é fome de outra vida, desejo de transitar. Quando dois amantes se abraçam e beijam, entredevoram-se, morrem um no outro, de algum modo, e transitam para um novo ser. A vida não pode ficar em nós, a repetir-se, que repetir é estar parado, é ocupar o mesmo lugar.
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Silva, Agostinho
Tema: Viver
Viver interessa mais que ter vivido; e a vida só é vida real quando sentimos fora de nós alguma coisa de diferente
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Pirandello, Luigi
Não há uma estrada real para a felicidade, mas sim caminhos diferentes. Há quem seja feliz sem coisa nenhuma, enquanto outros são infelizes possuindo tudo
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Kierkegaard, Soren
A porta da felicidade abre só para o exterior; quem a força em sentido contrário acaba por fechá-la ainda mais
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"Half of the troubles of this life can be traced to saying yes too quickly and not saying no soon..."
“Half of the troubles of this life can be traced to saying yes too quickly and not saying no soon enough.”
- Josh Billings (via psych-facts)
- Josh Billings (via psych-facts)
Before you achieve big goals. Major efforts are necessary.
Before you achieve big goals. Major efforts are necessary.
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10 Reasons Why What Others Think Of You Is Not Important
In an evermore connecting society where personal value is wrongly correlated with social status, it becomes easy to get swept away in the opinions of others. Who likes who, who wronged who, who is doing what and so on are all regular topics in our daily interactions. Let’s not forget, gossip evolved as an evolutionary device – a successful one at that.
Yet despite this, those with their eye on living an honest and fulfilling life should avoid any temptations of this social Whodunnit. It’s true. Caring about what others think of you is an arrow to the knee of your happiness. Here are 10 reasons why.
1. Nobody Knows You Like Yourself.
People can be arrogant in the fact that they tend to judge a persons character within second of meeting them. We all generalise, we form assumptions, we create an opinion of people from the first moments of the first interaction, often inaccurate ones. The truth is, despite the lightening-quick opinions people form, nobody knows you like you do. You know your own strengths, your own weaknesses, your likes and dislikes more than anybody else in the world. Yes, people can be quick to judge. Are their perceptions of you at all accurate? It’s unlikely. Don’t concern yourself with them.
“The most difficult thing in life is to know yourself” – Thales
2. Nobody Likes to Feel Bad About Themselves.
We all like to feel confident and that we lack nothing major in our lives. Since it is often difficult for people to directly face their personal issues head on and get over them, people like to bring others down as a means of feeling more secure about themselves. People who readily form negative opinions are often casting their own insecurities onto others as a means of overshadowing their own. It is admittedly easier, but that doesn’t make it right. It’s often nothing to do with you in the first place.
3. You’ll Be Forever Walking On Egg Shells.
Do you wan’t to live a life of anxiety? A life where the views of others sting you like a wasp every time you hear a negative or insulting remark about yourself? I bet you don’t. If you do, you’ll quickly become a people-pleaser. You’ll be that Mr. Niceguy who gets trampled all over by everyone in fear of offending anyone. Mr. Niceguy on the outside, is Mr. Sadguy on the inside. You’re better than that.
4. They Will Take You Everywhere But Up.
Successful people don’t care deeply about what others think of them. Why? Because there are some terrible people out there, and in order to achieve something great you’ll have to make some of them angry. If on you’re path to success you find that absolutely everybody is agreeing with you, then you’re probably doing it wrong. Damned if you do, damned if you don’t. So why not Do.
5. You Simply Don’t Have Time.
Success means becoming the strongest, most well-rounded version of yourself possible. In order to achieve success, you’ll have to build upon your strengths and minimise your weaknesses. How can you expect to do that if you’re too busy wasting your time contemplating the views of others? If you want to be successful, you don’t have those precious seconds to throw away. Focus on developing yourself, not developing others’ thoughts.
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
6. Confidence Isn’t Rooted In the Thoughts of Others.
How many times have you heard a confident person say that they get their confidence from the negative opinions of others? Not many, I bet. It’s usually the contrary. Confidence comes from realising the pettiness and inaccuracy of other people’s negative view of you and then ignoring them. Confident people know exactly what they lack and they get comfortable with it. They don’t need others to do it for them.
7. Only Those Who Aren’t Going Anywhere Criticise Others.
In Andrew Carnegie’s world-renowned book “How to Win Friends and Influence People”, he mentions the importance of not criticising others if you want to be successful. Before he was president, Abraham Lincoln criticised a man in a local newspaper and it almost landed him in a sword fight. He learned never to condemn people ever again. And then he became president. So… yeah.
“When dealing with people, remember you are not dealing with creatures of logic, but with creatures bristling with prejudice and motivated by pride and vanity” – Dale Carnegie.
8. If You Do, You’ll Become Them.
If you concern yourself with the negative views of others for long enough you will end up believing them. It’s a sad truth. You will turn into the very person you are trying to avoid because you don’t have the will to ignore opinions. This is bad. Don’t be fooled into a false version of yourself, remember that nobody knows you like you do.
“Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent” – Eleanor Roosevelt.
9. You’ll Adopt Their Habit.
Since we are the average of our peer group, the thoughts of others begin to dominate our minds. You could end up adopting their negative habits yourself if you’re not careful. Specifically, you will begin to automatically ridicule and form negative opinions of others in an effort to overshadow your own. Can you see the cycle here? It’s the echo chamber effect in full swing.
10. You’ll Regret It On Your Deathbed.
Not that I want to take a gloomy turn in this article, but it might just be necessary to drive my points home. In Bronnie Ware’s touching book “The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying”, Ware recalls her years in palliative care and her interactions with the dying. She noted their top 5 regrets. Can you guess which was top? Yes, it was listening too much to the opinions of others.
“I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.” – Top regret of the dying.
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15 Signs You’re An Over-Thinker Even If You Don’t Feel You Are
Infinite possibilities.
You’ve probably been told that the world is at your finger tips. You have more choices than ever before and that you should be so lucky that there are abundant opportunities out there.
This idea can be a blessing for some and a curse for others.
If you’re an over-thinker like me, it can be exhausting running through every possible scenario for every potential possibility.
The what if’s start to run your life and you can get so deep down the rabbit hole, that you can even forget what your original intention was.
It’s even worse when you’re unaware you are doing it!
Here are 15 signs that you are an over-thinker, even if you don’t feel you are.
1. You find meaning in everything
Someone you like twirls their hair twice, instead of three times. You walk past someone and they don’t make eye contact with you, but you walk past them again and this time they make eye contact, but for only a couple of seconds. They looked away a little too fast. What does it all mean!? When you’re an over-thinker, you tend to want to find meaning in the world around you. Sometimes, it can consume you and you over-analyze everything. It’s helpful to remind yourself that nothing has inherent meaning, other than the meaning you give it.
2. You think more than you do
Ever heard the term analysis paralysis? You think so much that you don’t end up doing anything. You weigh your options. You decide that the best outcome might be, but then you compare the best outcome with a new possible best outcome. The cycle continues until you end up doing nothing. Instead of thinking about every possibility, I find it helpful to actually start testing out some to see if they are actually true. While it’s important to think, it’s equally important to act.
3. You get excited when you’ve finally figured something out
Maybe you’ve been mulling something over for weeks. A complex problem that you haven’t figured out yet, but have kept at it. Or, a complex love interest that you’ve obsessed about, until they do something that proves your entire theory about them. Either way, you jump for joy exclaiming, “Eureka!” when you’ve finally figured out the answer. Then of course, you move onto your next problem and even begin to question whether or not you actually figured out the original problem.
4. You find it difficult to let things go
Because you’ve put in a lot of effort to figure something out, you find it challenging to let go of it. You easily attach to things you find important. You don’t want to fail. When you’ve invested a lot of time and energy into something, it can be hard to let it go when it isn’t working. You may continue thinking about it even after you believe you already did let it go. The more you think about something, the more it can eat away at you.
5. You are patient
You highly value the time it takes to “dot all of your i’s and cross all of your t’s.” Even if it takes you longer than most, you are delighted when you come out ahead because you’ve put in the time to figure it out. You are willing to wait it out until you feel comfortable with the knowledge you’ve acquired, which allows you to be patient whilst others want quick solutions.
6. You want to get all of your ducks in a row
Be careful with this one. This can often be an excuse to not taking any action. While you find it comforting to wait until you feel ready, you may never feel ready and might only be delaying the inevitable. I know this because I used to say this. Sometimes there will never be a best time and you will never have as much time as you do now. Might as well jump in the water and then get your duckies in a row.
7. You are always seeking new information
A friend forwards you an article about a topic you are interested in. You get a notification from Facebook that you were tagged in a photo at the same time you get a text from someone asking you a question. Then, you’re cubicle mate stands up and wants to try this new restaurant for lunch. With so many distractions, there is a tendency to want to know more information about all of it. So many possibilities and so much to learn about them.
8. You want to know the “why”
Kids love to ask why. It’s hot out today. Why? Don’t talk to strangers. Why? Walk don’t run. Why? Over-thinkers tend to keep this inner child with them throughout their life. They aren’t interested so much in surface level meaning, but the why behind it. This can be extremely beneficial in solving complex problems, having deep conversations, and pondering the meaning of life. Sometimes it can be detrimental, because some things DO have surface level meaning. We want simplicity, yet make things complex.
9. You want to get everything right
You might be a perfectionist. On the one hand, you pride yourself on being great at what you do and strive to do your best. But when you don’t get everything right and come up short, you can become your harshest critic. By recognizing that this can be a strength as well as a weakness, you can let up a little knowing that you simply can’t get everything right, despite your best efforts. Cut yourself some slack.
10. You dread a one word reply
When you ask someone “How they are doing?” and all you get is “Good”, you cringe a little bit. There is much more to that question than “good.” Wanting to know more, you might pry a little more and ask more questions because you want to figure out how they are actually are. How good? Really good or just a little good? Good today? Good right now? While you may be able to go on and on about how you are feeling, you might also expect everyone else to want to do the same.
11. You assume others know what you’re thinking
Those voices in your head are loud to you, but you may forget that they are yours and yours alone. You might get quiet and assume someone else will know exactly what is going on in that head of yours. But if you don’t communicate it, other people won’t know. While you may prefer quiet environments, you start to realize that your over-thinking gets louder when there aren’t as many distractions. You may find that inner child coming out again when you don’t get your way.
12. You are a lover of lists
The joy of making a large list and crossing out those items as you complete them is highly motivating. When you try and share your love of lists with others, they many not revel in that same joy. But you continue to make them! The satisfaction of planning out something and visually seeing all that planning getting crossed off is pleasurable.
13. You look forward to doing things to calm the mind
Long walks. Meditation. Writing. Exercise. A conversation. You enjoy doing things that take your mind out of over-thinking mode. While your mind is active, you find it difficult to sometimes just be and can have the urge to be doing more. It’s helpful to remind yourself that you are in fact a human being and not a human doing. This will allow your mind to take a much deserved break.
14. You analyze people
This includes yourself! You may wonder why people do the things they do. You enjoy people watching because you want to try and figure them out. Public places can be both fascinating and overwhelming to you. To you, someone just doesn’t walk by you. You may have noticed the way they walk or thought about what song they are listening to. If someone is talking to themselves, you might have to remind yourself that they are talking to themselves and not you. Then you wonder why they are talking to themselves in first place.
15. You think critically
Sometimes you see alternative solutions to complex problems. Maybe you have some ideas that nobody has ever thought of before. Sometimes you can sit and stare off in awe at the complexity of life. Easy answers aren’t good enough to you. You want to go deeper. You weigh all of your options, carefully investigating deeper and deeper. Your ability to think critically is a strength you are deeply proud of.
Some of our greatest inventors, visionaries, entrepreneurs, and thought leaders were all over-thinkers. It can can also be very limiting and even lonely at times.
When you can see both the strengths and limitations of your over-thinking, you can balance your level of over-thinking with more doing. You can even teach someone else who under-thinks!
Take comfort knowing you aren’t the only one who over-thinks and remember these 15 signs you are probably an over-thinker, even if you don’t feel like you are.
But don’t think about it too much.
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All the things that hurt you, actually teach you.
All the things that hurt you, actually teach you.
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8 Effective Ways That Can Help Fight Depression (Without Drugs)
When you look around our societies today, almost everyone is on antidepressants or knows someone who is. People who are depressed suffer from dominating sadness, a blue mood, emotional numbness, empty feelings, anxiety, hopelessness, loss of self-worth, indecision, or some combination of these. When you’re depressed, it often feels like nothing in the world can make you feel better.
Antidepressant medications help to manage depression, but these drugs often only treat the symptoms of depression and not necessarily the causes. Sometimes you may need to do more than take a pill to lift your mood and beat depression to feel good about yourself again.
Here are eight ways that may help fight depression (without medications) so you can enjoy life again.
1. Share what you’re going through with people you love and trust.
Don’t feel embarrassed confiding in a friend or voicing your struggles. Talking about your problems or worries is not a self-centered or self-pitying endeavor; it’s an act of courage. It can be the best thing you do for yourself to lighten the burden and begin the process of regaining your happiness. The people you talk to don’t have to be able to fix you, they just need to be good listeners. Sometimes all we need is a listening ear.
2. Keep a “thought log.”
Whenever you experience negative thoughts or sudden burst of sadness, jot down the thoughts and what triggered them as clearly and succinctly as possible. The act of writing down your worries is calming and therapeutic. Review your log when you are up to it. Read it with an open mind. Consider if the negative feelings were truly warranted. Question if there’s another way to view the situation. Worries and doubts oftentimes dissolve under scrutiny. If that happens, that’s great. However, if the worries are based on genuine risks, take additional measures to manage them.
3. Redirect your focus to the positive.
Of course, this is easier said than done when you have depression. That said, studies show that when people pay more attention to the positive it leads to improved moods due to a corresponding increase in their serotonin levels. An imbalance in serotonin levels may influence mood in a way that leads to depression. One technique that can help to redirect attention to the positive is meditation. Meditation has been shown to increase dopamine levels, serotonin levels, and boost feelings of happiness. Use meditation to “turn on” a state of happiness that can replace sadness. You can also try Heart Math training, which has been shown to strengthen the part of the brain responsible for turning on the “happy state.”
4. Go outside more.
The importance of regulated sunshine and light exposure for lifting moods (as well as energy levels) is huge. Light increases your productivity and happiness. Studies show bright light exposure may also help increase serotonin levels in the brain and alleviate depression symptoms. Aim for at least 15 minutes of sunlight a day to lift your mood. If you live somewhere with little winter sunshine, think about installing some halogen bulbs in your work area or getting a wakeup light.
5. Practice relaxation techniques.
As already hinted, daily relaxation practices bring real benefits to people with depression. They increase dopamine levels, which reduces stress and increases feelings of happiness and well-being. A daily relaxation practice can help relieve symptoms of depression. Apart from meditation, try relaxation practices like yoga or tai chi to calm your mind and increase your energy. You may add a motivational element to some practices by repeating a mantra or a word or phrase of self-affirmation as you move.
6. Get the right kinds of exercise.
A review of many of the available studies concluded that exercise is extremely effective for improving both mood and depressive symptoms. So much so, some government agencies are prescribing exercise instead of antidepressants, explaining that “the risk–benefit ratio is poor for antidepressant use in patients with mild depression.” So get exercising. Aim for about 30 minutes of exercise per day. You don’t have to sweat strenuously. You’re not training for the Boston Marathon. Exercises that are continuous and rhythmic (rather than intermittent) are good choices. This gives you lots of options like walking, swimming and stationery biking.
7. Change the types and amounts of food you eat.
This is possibly the most effective way to fight depression and improve mood. Studies show that consuming a diet high in omega-3 fatty acids, clean saturated fats, and moderate amounts of animal protein can give your body what it needs to improve mood. Some of the proteins in whey or milk serum can actually improve mood after just a few hours. In cases of light to moderate depression, tryptophan can also help to improve mood. Even in healthy individuals who are slightly more irritable than usual, small amounts of tryptophan can make them less irritable and more agreeable.
8. Adopt a pet.
Nothing can replace the joy and pleasure of human-to-human connection, but pets can bring a lot of joy and companionship into life. They help you feel less lonely and isolated. Caring for a pet can also take your mind off your own troubles, forcing you to get up and about more. Let’s face it, if you get a dog you’ll have to walk them sooner or later. All of these examples are powerful antidotes to depression.
Bottom line:
If you find your depression is getting worse, seek help from a physician as soon as possible. If you know someone who seems to be showing symptoms of depression, encourage them to see a doctor.
Depression is an illness (not just a mood) that can be treated. You can feel better!
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10 Health Benefits Of Drinking Lemon Water You Haven’t Realized
If you’ve been to practically any restaurant, you’ll find that if you order water, it will almost always come with a lemon wedge in the glass.
You may have thought that all this did was give your water a bit of a lemony after-taste — but you’d be wrong. In truth, infusing your water with a fresh lemon gives it numerous beneficial properties.
Why is that? Well, to put it simply, lemon juice is packed with numerous nutrients, ranging from vitamin C to calcium, potassium and iron. Not only that, but it also contains certain antimicrobial agents, allowing it to enhance your immune system.
I like my lemon water over ice (especially during the summer), but to get the most out of it, experts suggest drinking it warm, and also say that it’s best to imbibe it about 15 minutes before you eat. Many people use warm lemon water as a coffee replacement in the morning, but feel free to have a cup at other times during the day as well.
Now that you’ve gotten the basic rundown, what are a few of the specific benefits of drinking lemon water? Well I’m glad you asked. For one, it. . .
1. Banishes your acne.
Lemon water fights acne and other blemishes by giving your kidney and liver a boost, allowing them to purify your body more efficiently. Additionally, the antioxidants present within lemons (like vitamin C) work to fight the development of acne (teenagers take note!). Drinking warm lemon water in the morning is known to do wonders in terms of eliminating any toxins present in your system.
2. Aides your digestive process.
Drinking warm lemon water before eating is suggested because it helps to prep your body for the meal you are about to eat. It does this by kick-starting the production of bile in your system, which in turn is used to break down all of the things that you eat. As a natural diuretic, lemon water also helps to keep your digestive system running smoothly by clearing it of possible obstructions, which is key if you want to maintain your overall health.
3. Fights nasty hangovers.
When sleep, water, and ibuprofen aren’t enough, try fighting your hangover with some warm lemon water. Thanks to its medicinal properties, it can help speed along your body’s effort to remove any of the alcohol still affecting your system.
4. Helps you lose weight.
Lemon water itself won’t actually burn off any of your excess fat, but it does help you replace the empty calories in soda or sweetened coffee with something that is much healthier in comparison.
Lemon water can also help you shed a few pounds by tackling your hunger pangs. The pectin fiber present in lemons acts to give you a feeling of fullness, meaning you won’t have to eat as much to feel satisfied.
5. Attacks inflammation.
If you have sore or achy knees and joints, starting the day off with a nice cup of warm lemon water might be just what the doctor ordered. This is mainly because the beverage helps to eliminate the uric acid that is responsible for many of your aches and pains.
6. Serves as a natural antacid.
As a citrus fruit, you might think it to be a bit strange that lemons reduce the amount of acid in your system, but it’s true. What it does is replace acid with alkaline, essentially tackling your acid problems at the source instead of just addressing the symptoms (which is what many over-the-counter drugs do).
7. Gives your brain a boost.
It might seem crazy, but lemon water actually does give your brain a bit of an edge, which is nice to have (especially in the morning). This comes as a result of the potassium present within lemons. Maintaining your potassium levels is important, as a deficiency can lead to poorer mental performance and a clouded mind.
8. Eliminates bad breath.
This can be especially useful in the morning, when “morning breath” might persist even after you brush your teeth. Lemon water works to keep your mouth smelling great thanks to its antimicrobial properties. Additionally, the cause of most bad breaths is a dry mouth, and lemon water works to cure that. Almost everybody likes the smell of lemons, so that helps too!
9. Tackles your allergies.
Thanks to the vitamin C and antioxidants in lemons, as well as its antacid properties, it does a great job of both boosting your immune system and balancing your body’s chemical properties, thus better preparing it to fight off allergy attacks. So if there’s a lot of pollen in the air and you feel the sniffles coming on, grab a lemon and go to work.
10. Revitalizes your eyes.
The numerous antioxidants and nutrients present within lemon juice do a great job of fighting off many of the more common eye-related maladies, such as cataracts and macular degeneration. Though drinking lemon water alone won’t be enough to outright cure any eye problems you might have currently, it does serve as an easy way to take preventative measures against any further damage.
That’s a pretty nifty list, eh? Who would have thought that such a simple beverage could have so many benefits! If you drink lemon water on a regular basis, or start drinking it due to this article, tell me all about your experience in the comments below. I’d especially love to hear if you found that there was some kind of benefit not addressed on this list!
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Be fearless in the pursuit of what sets your soul…
Be fearless in the pursuit of what sets your soul on fire.
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